Girlfriend tried sex position with ex but not with me

DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend was happy to go on top during sex with another bloke but she won’t with me.

She is 20, I am 24 and we have a girl of three.

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We split up a year ago and both slept with other people but we are now trying to make a go of it again.

She says she could let loose, go on top and take the lead with this other fella but with me she says it feels weird and I make her nervous.

She also says I am much bigger than the other guy.

I have been with enough girls to know she still enjoys having sex with me but I feel annoyed knowing she’d take control with someone else when she won’t with me.

DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds as if she didn’t really care what the other guy thought of her but how you feel about her matters to her.

She knows she is the mother of your child, not just a sexual fling to you.

Ask her why she is nervous with you and make an effort to give her confidence.

If you are well-endowed, some positions may not be comfortable for your girlfriend.

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